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Sex and Success: Parallels Between the Bedroom and the Boardroom

Perhaps there is no greater, more misunderstood, completely overlooked, and under applied principle than sexual alchemy . . . otherwise known as “Sex Transmutation.” Of the myriad of human emotions and feelings that drive a man—love not withstanding—there is none stronger or more powerful than that of his sex drive.

I first learned of sex transmutation at the age of sixteen, when I read my father’s copy of Napoleon Hill’s book, Think and Grow Rich. Although he applied the book’s more cursory ideals of positive thinking to his career, I was drawn to the more abstruse principles behind “Autosuggestion,” “The Subconscious Mind,” and especially “The Mystery of Sex Transmutation.”

Referred to by Sigmund Freud as part of Leonardo da Vinci’s genius and by Thoreau as “the beginning of genius” (from the chapter, “Higher Laws,” in his classic book, Walden), at the time I saw sex transmutation as not just a psychological and spiritual remedy for healing my sexual dissonance—overcoming the conflicting and confusing feelings and memories of having been progressively molested by maleficent males during my foster care and military boarding school years—but moreover—as proclaimed by ancient Eastern philosophers—as a means of acquiring esoteric knowledge and unlocking a higher intelligence, provided I was willing to orgasm without ejaculating my semen . . . the ultimate exercise in mental and physiological control. So, with the latest issue of Playboy in one hand and Think and Grow Rich in the other—through autosexuality—I came to realize the inexplicable link between abstract visualization (licentious sex with voluptuous women) and harnessing the strongest of emotional fuels (sexual desire) required to fertilize those thoughts and bring them to their physical manifestation—in that case, eradicating the fear of being attracted to males and psychologically cementing my attraction to females. Critical thought is potent; critical thought, when fertilized by the fire of sexual desire, I had discovered at an early age, was powerfully potent!

Showcased throughout the annals of world history are men of significance who not only had high sex drives, but more importantly, learned how to harness, manage, and transmute their sexual energy—albeit for a plethora of reasons, some noble, some not—as a means of accomplishing feats far greater than mere copulation and procreation.

Quoting Napoleon Hill in chapter 11 of his classic 1937 book, Think and Grow Rich:

“Sex desire is the most powerful of human desires. When driven by this desire, men develop keenness of imagination, courage, willpower, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times. So strong and impelling is the desire for sexual contact that men freely run the risk of life and reputation to indulge in it. When harnessed, and redirected along other lines, this motivating force maintains all of its attributes of keenness of imagination, courage, etc., which may be used as powerful creative forces in literature, art, or in any other profession or calling, including, of course, the accumulation of riches. The transmutation of sex energy calls for the exercise of will power, to be sure, but the reward is worth the effort. The desire for sexual expression is inborn and natural. The desire cannot and should not be submerged or eliminated. But it should be given an outlet through forms of expression, which enrich the body, mind, and spirit of a man. If not given this form of outlet through transmutation, it will seek outlets through purely physical channels. A river may be dammed, and its water controlled for a time, but its very nature causes it to be ever seeking means of expression. If it is not transmuted into some creative effort it will find a less worthy outlet.”

Sadly, such is the case for the majority of men who are ignorant of the transcendent qualities of a carefully cultivated and managed libido. The generation of energy created by continence for the purpose of an allegedly closer union with God—for many men, including priests–ends up as nothing more than pent-up passion which often results in pedophilia and the tragic molestation of little boys and girls.

Paraphrasing Hill, he goes on to say that although the river may be dammed and its water controlled for a time, it will force an outlet one way or another. How true that is. Even the ordinary man with a normal sex drive struggles with his innate desire to spread his seed from woman to woman, irrespective of well intentioned adherence to a religious, moral, or ethical code (just look at the Old Testament patriarchs). What Hill neglects to inform his readers is that engaging in sex transmutation without a clearly defined purpose—financial, philosophical, physical or spiritual—and without exercising personal prudence or divine discipline is akin to using gasoline to extinguish a brush fire. Before you know it, you’ll be a havoc-wreaking raging inferno that leaves in its wake broken hearts and—in some cases—irreparably fractured souls.

Hill woefully turns a blind eye to the potential side effects this way:

“The mere possession of this energy is not sufficient to produce a genius. The energy must be transmuted from desire for physical contact into some other form of desire and action before it will lift one to the status of a genius. Far from becoming geniuses because of great sex desires, the majority of men lower themselves, through misunderstanding and misuse of this great force, to the status of the lower animals.
The majority of men never learn that the urge of sex has other possibilities, which far transcend in importance that of mere physical expression. The majority of those who make this discovery do so after having wasted many years at a period when the sex energy is at its height, prior to the age of forty-five to fifty. This usually is followed by noteworthy achievement.”

Ignoring the social and spiritual carnage that’s left in the wake of sex transmutation gone amok, Hill infers—or at least hypothesizes—that for one to attain the level of genius, sexual alchemy is the sure-fire path. I strongly disagree. Genetic predispositions aside, in “Lehmann’s” terms, the harnessing of sexual desire is the high octane catalyst that allows one to study with laser-like focus and intensity to further develop and increase one’s intellectual capacity—possibly to the level of genius.

As a former practitioner of the occultist rituals that are part and parcel with sex transmutation—the genesis of which is the ancient Chinese Tao—in summary, the crux of their theory is that a man and a woman can engage in tantric sexual union to the point of orgasm, only instead of ejaculating, the bloodstream reabsorbs the mineral-enriched semen and seminal fluids, and through meditation gets redirected through the seven chakra regions of the body—in effect—culminating in self-deification and an alleged union with the pantheistic, supernatural, supreme deity. As an iconoclastic Bible believing Christian, I have since repented of the spiritual, esoteric, and shamanistic rituals that ensnare the majority of men and women who engage in sex transmutation, including Tantra and other ancient Eastern practices—including certain forms of yoga. However, I remain a firm believer in the mental and physiological benefits of sex transmutation as evidenced by the likes of Leonardo da Vinci, and Benjamin Franklin.

Da Vinci, master of the arts, science, mathematics, physics, astronomy and biology, is widely considered the most intelligent person that ever lived. Sigmund Freud in his book: Leonardo da Vinci and a Memory of His childhood said that da Vinci practiced chastity and transmuted his sexual passion into inquisitiveness.

Chastity was viewed as a virtue not to be mistaken for abstinence. For example, in his autobiography, listen to how Benjamin Franklin (a statesman who risked life and limb when, he too, signed the Declaration of Independence) defined chastity:
“Rarely use venery except for health or offspring, never to weakness or dullness or the injury of your own or another’s peace of mind or reputation.” One of thirteen virtues (Humility, Industry, Sincerity, Temperance, Justice, Silence, Cleanliness, Chastity, Moderation, Resolution, Order, Frugality, Tranquility) he extrapolated from his studies of philosophy as a young man, chastity was not defined as the total absence of sex.

In his chapter “Higher Laws” Thoreau says in Walden:

“We are conscious of an animal in us, which awakens in proportion as our higher nature slumbers. It is reptile and sensual, and perhaps cannot be wholly expelled. Yet the spirit can for the time, pervade and control every member and function of the body, and transmute what in form is the grossest sensuality into purity and devotion. The generative energy, which when we are loose, dissipates and makes us unclean, when we are continent invigorates and inspires us. Chastity is the flowering of a man; and what are called Genius, Heroism, Holiness, and the like, are but various fruits, which succeed it. Man flows at once to God when the channel of purity is open.”

Of course, the ultimate authority on sex transmutation was none other than Jesus Christ himself whose Godly definition of chastity is: Total abstinence outside the union of marriage—a standard both Christians and Infidels miserably fail to meet. Had he ascribed “Genius” to the Christian virtues of chastity and fidelity, perhaps the high percentage of fornication and infidelity would be all the more diminished. Our carnal cravings, our disparate desires, and the flares of our flesh however, present a formidable foe, the likes of which is unlike any other war that man engages in.

If you’re a male entrepreneur, particularly under the age of fifty, you must learn to generate, cultivate, and transmute your sexual desire into rocket fuel if you want to break free of mediocrity and reach the summit of success. While you may think that you have to forego a sexually satisfying sex life to have a more successful entrepreneurial enterprise, think again. In fact, it’s only when your sexual reservoir of testosterone and related endorphins are at near unmanageable levels that you can even begin to think about practicing the discipline of sex transmutation. How do you increase your testosterone and libido? Through sex, a lot of sex!

If you want your profits up in the boardroom, keep your penis up in the bedroom! Confidence is a key characteristic of an extreme entrepreneur. Of the abundance of confidence boosting exercises one can engage in, there is none greater nor more effective—particularly for a man—than an active sex life. But not just an ordinary sex life, an extraordinarily imaginative, sensuous, and sultry sex life. You can’t transmute extra energy that you can’t generate. But in order to generate that extra energy, you have to get the river raging. There is no greater application of the old adage: “Use it or Lose it,” than to a man’s libido. Like the willpower required to abstain from ejaculation during orgasmic cycles, so too does it require mental discipline and sheer willpower to break through the stagnation of sexual plateaus and increase both the quantity and the quality of your sexual activity.

In addition to his confidence, a man’s creativity, imagination, passion, drive, stamina, and cerebral certainty is unquestionably linked to his libido. For example:

The more creative he is in the bedroom, the more creative he will be in the boardroom.

The more driven he is in the bedroom, the more driven he will be in the boardroom.

The more passionate he is in the bedroom, the more passionate he’ll be in the boardroom.

The more focused he is in the bedroom, the more focused he will be in the boardroom.

The more intense he is in the bedroom, the more intense he will be in the boardroom.

Putting ones moral, spiritual, and religious beliefs aside, not to mention the many dynamics (trust, respect, security, romance, communication, etc., etc.) that play into a mutually rewarding sexual union, the bottom line is this:

Ladies, the more a man strives for the summit of sexuality, the more he will strive for the summit of success. In short, you play a direct and critical role in how well he performs in the boardroom by how well he performs in the bedroom. Only for the purpose of applying sex transmutation, you need to more than satisfy him, you need to work him, and work him hard . . . pardon the pun. By that I mean challenge him to get creative and never allow him to become sexually complacent. Most importantly, push his endurance and stamina to the extreme edge. When he claims he’s sexually exhausted and can’t perform anymore, that’s when you really put him to work. His libido isn’t nearly as fatigued as his mind—mental flaccidity. You’ve heard the term “mind over matter.” Nowhere is that more applicable than in a sexual marathon.

Continence and the application of sexual alchemy to endeavors outside of the bedroom can only be effective when the riverbed is overflowing. But outside of an appropriate diet, testosterone injections, and taking various hormones, the best way to increase your testosterone and accompanying endorphins is by increasing the frequency of normal sex that actually culminates in ejaculatory orgasms–for a while (Oh, Yea! The guys are screaming). Not so fast, gentlemen. To use an analogy, take a pizza-eating contest. At first bite—maybe even the first few pizzas—it tastes pretty good and your stomach is craving even more. But when your body has had its fill, everything from your taste buds to your tummy rejects it, not just rejects it, but also wants to regurgitate it. How many men are so sick of sex that the very thought of it makes them throw up? Exactly. But that’s the benchmark a man and his partner should strive for in order for the ensuing continence and transmutation to have maximum effect. If your partner does her job correctly, she’ll have you begging for mercy. Why? Because of the mental concentration—not the physical exertion—that is required to break through sexual plateaus and increase the number of ejaculatory orgasms in a finite period of time. Contrary to popular folklore, a man’s crankshaft doesn’t control his cranium; His cranium controls his crankshaft! Every man’s sexual cycle and refractory period differs with age and other extenuating circumstances. Nevertheless, for the purpose of generating and damming energy through continence and transmutation, it should be the goal of every businessman and entrepreneur to increase his ejaculatory orgasms ten-fold, at least in the beginning. For example, if on average you experience two to three ejaculatory orgasms a week, you should strive for twenty to thirty a week. The physical and emotional benefits notwithstanding, it’s the mental muscle—focus, persistence, stamina, intensity, desire, drive, determination, perseverance, pain, passion, and power that’s required to reach the acme of sexual ecstasy that’s also required to reach the acme of business success. How so? Men and women alike are driven by feelings . . . good, bad, or indifferent. Men in particular will do whatever it takes to achieve that feeling—even at the risk of reputation or even life itself. However, there is no greater feeling to a man than an orgasmic eruption that’s the result of making mad, passionate love to a woman—period!

For many men, they fall short in the boardroom to the degree that they fall short in the bedroom. Why? He hasn’t fully developed, much less exercised his mental muscle—those aforementioned intangible attributes that are essential to withstanding the rigors of business and entrepreneurship. In most instances, a man will do whatever it takes to avoid certain feelings when in fact he should embrace, exercise, and intensify the very feelings he is trying to avoid. Only then can he recognize and manage those feelings in the future so as not to interfere or cloud his intellectual judgment and mental clarity. But, without a clear and precise understanding of the immediate benefit, pleasure, or satisfaction derived from embracing and in some cases transmuting certain inhibitive or uncomfortable feelings, at the first sign of trouble e.g., challenges, pressure, anxiety, exhaustion, complex problems, etc., etc., a man will quit before he breaks through the mental barrier. Why? It’s not from the impossibility of the objective; it’s from the unfamiliarity, discomfort with, and inability to withstand the heat that accompanies the pursuit of the objective—the bedroom being the one exception.

There is no other domain or realm in which a man will dig deeper, push further, focus harder, accelerate faster, or concentrate more than when making love to his partner. Unlike the boardroom where the feeling from accomplishing the objective can be ambiguous and incalculable—therefore making it difficult, if not impossible to tolerate the uncomfortable feelings endured while striving to reach a business objective—a man is crystal clear and acutely aware of the precise payoff that awaits him at the end of his sexual liaison. Thus the bedroom is the one realm where a man is more willing to tolerate and endure whatever temporary pain and discomfort is associated with achieving his ultimate goal–a volcanic orgasm!

Since the characteristics that make a good lover are the same ones that make a good entrepreneur—hence the parallels between the bedroom and the boardroom—in addition to increasing testosterone for the purpose of continence and transmutation, the bedroom is the ultimate arena to exercise those intangible attributes and plow right through any mental limitations. It’s important to note that a man’s sexual partner plays a pivotal role in sharpening his psyche, especially when he is exhausted and claims that he can’t perform anymore. He can perform a lot more. It’s his lovers’ job to push him no matter what it takes. The purpose is to not only acclimate himself to the unfamiliar feelings of pain and exhaustion as he reaches new heights in the bedroom, but to increase the intensity and laser-like focus required to fight through it. Like his physical member, the more he trains his mental muscle, the more he increases his ability to withstand the mental exhaustion that accompanies reaching new heights in the boardroom.

Generating an overabundance of sexual energy for the purpose of sex transmutation requires conscious effort on a man’s part to dramatically shorten his refractory period between orgasms, and to push himself to have sexual intercourse that culminates in ejaculatory orgasms as frequently as he can in the shortest period of time—especially when he is physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted. Besides exercising the intangible attributes that he applies in the boardroom, he naturally and contemporaneously increases his testosterone and endorphins the more frequently he performs. Not only that, but with each subsequent orgasm, he has to dig that much deeper, therefore exercising the very attributes he draws on to succeed in the boardroom, e.g., persistence, perseverance, creativity, determination, imagination, and passion. Only once a man has created an overabundance of sexual energy, continence for the purpose of transmuting it into other forms of expression, requires extreme discipline.

There you have it, sex and success, the parallels between the bedroom and the boardroom. So what are you waiting for? Go get your game on!

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Until next time . . .

Go Rogue & Get Rich!

Kevin A. Lehmann

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  2. By Lauryn Doll on Nov 20, 2011 | Reply

    Thanks for this post. I’m writing something about sex and success for my blog now, and I thought of this portion of Napoleon Hill’s book too.

    Overall it kills me how as a society there’s so much confusion – and at times stubborn refusal – to discuss sex, or even the channels of sex transmutation.

    Admittedly, I’ll be coming this over a few times…

  3. By Cindy on Apr 16, 2012 | Reply

    Hi Kevin

    LOVED your story on Sex and Success and wondered if you could share any books on this topic that have inspired you or assisted in rounding out your theories on the correlation between the two.

    Many thanks,

  4. By Antonio on Jun 3, 2012 | Reply

    Thank you Kevin. Well put & inspirational. A more detailed guidebook would really help. Any books out there on this?

  5. By nara on Aug 23, 2012 | Reply

    Are you sure what you are saying is true and it is from the core of your heart?

    These days i stopped believing any one blindly.
    Did you experiment all the above mentioned , and found any worthy results like transmutation.

  6. By Kevin A. Lehmann on Sep 13, 2012 | Reply

    Of course. I wouldn’t have written it otherwise.

  7. By Unknown on Sep 18, 2012 | Reply

    Great article, here is a blog post that dives even deeper in the understanding of sexual energy

  8. By scott on Sep 25, 2012 | Reply

    So are we saying get with one partner and have as much sex as possible and spill the beans as well…everytime??? Thanks in advance :)

  9. By Khayyam on Jan 20, 2013 | Reply

    What if you don’t have a partner ? What then ? How to get your sexual energy to a high level ?

    How can you take Leonardo Da Vinci as an ideal (and who didn’t engagne in se 20 times a week) and then ask us to do that ?

    I feel like I missed something.

  10. By Marcus on Jan 25, 2013 | Reply

    Very good article, cheers Kevin!

  11. By Jacob on Feb 11, 2013 | Reply

    The biggest load of crap I ever read. This guy goes from Sex transmutation. Define: Transmutation…. Noun
    The action of changing or the state of being changed into another form: “the transmutation of the economy”.

    from restraining in sexual activity to having more sexual activity than you can deal with :S how does that make sense?

    People don’t listen to this guy.

    Sexual transmutation means transferring the energy you have for sex into something productive aka willpower is needed. Wow I read all that but it’s good because now I posted this. I sex transmuted, instead of indulging in sex I read this and types this comment. Thats the definition of sex transmutation.

    Kind regards,

  12. By Kevin A. Lehmann on Feb 14, 2013 | Reply

    Jacob, your comment makes no sense. I suggest you read the article in its entirety.

  13. By Abhishek Agarwal on Mar 5, 2013 | Reply

    Hi Kevin, I read the book of Napoleon Hill, and the chapter on Sex transmutation has been the most confusing chapter in the book…I have been trying to implement sex transmutation in life, but have not received any clear benefits out of this….most of the times it goes on the reverse direction, compared to the positive thoughts on what I want to achieve. How do I know whether the way I am implementing in life is correct or not?

  14. By Abhishek Agarwal on Mar 5, 2013 | Reply

    The whole article was written in context of men, how do women implement sex transmutation? or is it only related to men and their success?

  15. By Kevin A. Lehmann on Mar 6, 2013 | Reply

    Women and men’s sex drives are different. Women don’t produce semen and aren’t controlled by the same kind of sexual compulsion as are young men.

  16. By Kevin A. Lehmann on Mar 6, 2013 | Reply

    It can definitely backlash if you don’t have the discipline and willpower to refrain from being controlled by the increased sexual intensity. Transmutation only works if you’re able to use it as a catalyst towards achieving a higher purpose outside the realm of physical copulation. It’s much easier said than done.

  17. By Abhishek Agarwal on Mar 8, 2013 | Reply

    Thanks Kevin, I would like to share that I was unconsciously using sex transmutation (ST) against my wishes, when I was suffering from schizophrenia 5 years back. My delusions / hallucinations used to come real as soon as I thought about it during sex or masturbation, which were generally a setback for my personal and professional life. After that I had so many ill fortunes that I was scared from sex and followed abstinence. Now I am OK, but I must say achieving ST is extremely difficult consiously.

  18. By Matt on Aug 16, 2013 | Reply

    We are set up to fail. We are told, “Have lots of sex but only with one woman”. What if the one woman you have doesn’t want that much sex?

  19. By Rodolfo on Sep 3, 2013 | Reply

    I love the article. I’m just questioning where will I harness power to have sex 26 times a week.It would be lovely to have that kind of power. In regards to Matt’s Question, “What if the one woman you have doesn’t want that much sex? – you need to get creative and awaken her libido Matt. Date her all the time. Take her out at least two to three times a week. Have her wear high heels most of the time. And i’ll bet you when you both come home it’s on!

  20. By Steve Oakes on Sep 14, 2013 | Reply

    I think you got the idea of Sex Transmutation backwards. Napoleon Hill wasn’t exactly clear on his meaning of Sex Transmutation, however I believe he was telling you to conserve the energy you expend in hunting for, acquiring and then the actual act and use that energy for the purpose of obtaining your goals. Your explanation is “just have lots of sex…if you’re good in the bedroom, you’ll be good in the bedroom”. That isn’t Sex Transmutation…that is sex!

  21. By Kevin A. Lehmann on Sep 14, 2013 | Reply

    No Steve, I don’t have it backwards. You need to read the entire article. Sexual alchemy isn’t just about having a lot of sex. However, it plays a significant role in increasing semen production for the purpose of continence. If you’re interested in a deeper understanding of it, perhaps you should hear my radio show with Dr Charles Runnels who wrote a book about it from a medical doctor’s perspective.

  22. By Ryan on Feb 21, 2014 | Reply


    Understand the biological differences between male and female and sperm production but I am confused. Is there a parallel with women? I have seen a high correlation between female partner sex drive and orgasmic capacity and success in the board room…creative arts and athletics…thoughts?

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